The sound of your own name

by lulujane on July 22, 2008

It’s interesting how reading someone else’s material sometimes prompts things from my memory bank. Yesterday this happened to me, and it related to the sound of my given name to my ears.

For years I worked at a prestigious law firm where people addressed each other in a formal/impersonal way as Mr., Miss, or Mrs. After 15 years there, I went on a maternity leave, and following that I changed jobs – this time ending up in an office in an industrial setting.

The first time my boss called me “Linda”it struck a chord in me. The feeling of this moment left its stamp on me. More importantly I was aware of how it felt to be recognized as a ‘person’ – I remember how it felt. It felt more respectful than the depersonalized reference of Mrs. I still remember the event/awareness as significant.

As a busy wife and mother, obviously I needed this, and I am thinking that if I was so affected by it, likely there are others who would benefit from hearing the sound of their own name as well.

This has again reminded me how important the sound of each man/woman’s name is to their ear(s).

Linda Iler

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Phog Blog 07.22.08 at 3:29 pm

Lovely anecdote. A nice thinking-piece that points out the little things that we often disregard, but which might make a huge difference in someone else’s life.

Great first post! The sound of your own name. Excellent.

Mark 07.27.08 at 11:59 am

Well said. But unfortunately, I’m still gonna call you “mom”. I hope that’s okay…

Love Ya!

Tiffanie 01.02.09 at 2:10 pm

I love this post! I find the Mrs. thing too impersonal too! I usually tell my children’s friends to just call me by my first name, unless their parents prefer the more formal address. I do not find children calling my first name rude or disrespectful…it is my name after all.

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